We get a lot of reactions and comments when we’re out and about on the bikes. Most people -or at least most people not in a car- are positive, and I’m frequently asked if I built them myself, which is flattering considering I wouldn’t know a welding torch if I fell over it. But there’s one comment which I frankly don’t understand even though it comes every second day: “My goodness, your boys have got it good” (“Die Jungs haben’s gut”).
See what I mean? It sounds like I’m spoiling the boys by transporting them on the bikes. Now that would be fine if the commenter was expecting their kids to walk to kindergarten seven kilometers each day, barefoot, while subsisting on a diet of mouldy beans and sawdust, but frequently people say that and then shovel their kids into a two ton car to take them the kilometre or so home.
Frankly I’d sit in a Bakfiets in preference to a car any day, but why is it a ‘luxury’ to carry children in a plywood box, but carrying them in a tin tank is normal? (Unless of course, they’re all envious of us and the fresh air we’re getting)
Anyway, yesterday I heard a great response to this. The kindergarten were having a ‘forest day’ so we had to pick the boys up from the edge of the village. I waited in the company of several mums, all holding car keys. Just before the children came, the mum from the one other car-free family in the village turned up. She’s a walker rather than a cyclist, and she’d had to pick her six year old son up from school and then get to the meeting point for the kindergarten, about 2 km away, in about five minutes. Her son was exhausted, so she’d put him in a big stroller and pushed him.
And the comments began: “Excuse me young man, you’re a schoolboy now, you can’t expect your mummy to push you about all the time any more” etc. Car Free Mum patiently explained the reason several times, before deciding she’d had enough. Turning to the most vociferous commenter she smiled sweetly and said “When I see you riding your bike occasionally, I’ll listen to that comment.”
Silence.

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September 26, 2010 at 10:25 am
Spencer
I too have wondered at comments like the one mentioned above. People are often envious of you when they see you on a bike, happy, and frankly looking cooler. There seems to be some sort of logic gap between seeing someone on a bike and admiring them, and getting out of your car and on to a bike yourself. Many people have never gotten from point A to point B any other way, and I’ve seen that once they give it a shot, many will make that leap and start riding more and driving less. (events like bike to work/school days are great for getting infrequent riders to realize they can do it every day) Thanks for the post!
September 29, 2010 at 2:50 pm
Andy in Germany
Haha, thanks for confirming my coolness Spencer
I think that the idea of admiring people who are different is strong, even if other people wouldn’t admit it: our local culture can give people a lot of pressure to ‘confirm’ and it can take courage to be obviously different at times. I wonder though if the Bakfiets makes people think they “can’t” do the same because they have a normal bike which they can’t use to carry children/can’t afford a cargo bike etc, and they think that to live car free, you need something like that… but then, the other car free family in the village have normal bikes…
September 26, 2010 at 11:42 am
Zweiradler
Maybe some people think you can’t afford a car, and then they are impressed that you found another way of taking your kids for a ride. Or they just want to adress the fact that your kids can ride a bike without having to pedal on their own.
Nico
September 27, 2010 at 11:32 am
Spencer
that may very well be the case. To be honest with you I marvel at how much time at work people spend so they CAN afford cars! You sacrifice the car and in return get time and money to explore other areas of your life with. (you also get creative with mobility, which may be where the envy comes in. People admire creativity!)
September 29, 2010 at 2:55 pm
Andy in Germany
I wonder at that as well: how many people drive (ahem) themselves into a frenzy because they have swallowed this lie of car dependency and who don’t realise it’s sicking the life out of them. Thanks for the encouragement on creativity as well…
September 29, 2010 at 2:53 pm
Andy in Germany
@ Nico: Possibly. Actually, we couldn’t afford a car, or at least we couldn’t afford a car and then afford all the other things we want to do
September 29, 2010 at 5:08 pm
Zweiradler
Well said … a car does not only burn fuel, it also burns money.
I’m glad I haven’t one.
Nico
September 30, 2010 at 3:27 pm
markbikeslondon
That poor woman, the other Mums sound so mean! I’m sure they’re not, of course, it’s just they are totally blinkered to any other opportunity which might be different to their own status quo, even if it is right under their nose.
I hope you are able to build some kind of solidarity with the other non-driving Mum, just to remind her sometimes that she’s doing a great job.
As for the Bakfiets; hell I want a huge adult sized version for ME to be pushed around town in; I’d take that over the car anyday, it looks great!
November 2, 2010 at 3:25 am
Heather
Mums are mean! I got this comment. “Don’t you feel ridiculous riding away from the school with that big bike empty?” Ummm….. “Do you feel silly driving away in your big empty suv?”